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“You Can’t Keep Blaming Me”

A REAL Mom to Mom Conversation about Being Raised by Broken Women

August 7, 2022 by Christine ZethrausPMHNP-BC

episode 32: the warrior

Watch the response of Belinda’s Mother after expressing how her Mother’s abandonment impacted her childhood. Belinda’s response back to her Mother’s disappointing reaction is not to be missed! Bravo Belinda!



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“That Makes Me Want To Cry”

Teaching Yourself How To Parent | episode 32 | the warrior My friend Belinda choosing Mental Health as an additional career to help her community and culture is beautiful. Check out podcast episode 32. We speak OUR truth about broken mothers impacting our parenting and worthiness. Watch FULL Video Here Listen to Full Episode Here… Continue reading “That Makes Me Want To Cry”

The Revealing Reasons Why I Am Grateful My Dad Was A Racist 

Why Witnessing Injustice on a Daily Basis was Necessary for My Purpose and Calling By: Christine Zethraus, PMHNP-BC Growing Up…. Growing up and being raised partly by a loud, obnoxious, alcoholic, drug fueled, racist father was draining. I am a lover by nature so having a parent who was the extreme opposite of myself was… Continue reading The Revealing Reasons Why I Am Grateful My Dad Was A Racist 

6 Reasons Why It’s Important To Set Boundaries

Why it’s Important to Your Mental Well-Being What is a Boundary? A boundary is direct communication about what YOU need, what YOUR limits are, what your willing to do or not do, tells the other what you’re thinking or feeling, provides space between yourself and the other, and gives clear expectations. We think people can… Continue reading 6 Reasons Why It’s Important To Set Boundaries

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episode 32: the warrior (Teaching Yourself How to Parent with Belinda Tyner)

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Daughter Sofia and I figuring out this parent thing together

Summary

How do you teach yourself to parent when you were raised by a broken emotionally immature mother? Then throw in society’s illusion of motherhood where it is expected mothers are born nurturers who saves everyone with a unrealistic superwomen mentality. What happens to your self-esteem when your mother was none of these misguided societal illusions?  (hint: unworthiness)

In this episode I speak with Belinda Tyner, an Adult Geriatric Nurse Practitioner about her journey of becoming a warrior while teaching herself how to parent through the challenges of raising a child with ADHD. 

Topics Discussed

  • The illusions of motherhood
  • Teaching yourself how to parent 
  • Meeting your child’s needs where their at
  • Conditioning of the Superwoman Syndrome
  • Asking yourself “what do I need?”
  • Being raised by parents in survival mode
  • Importance of praising a child with ADHD during the good moments
  • Importance of ADHD diagnosis ASAP
  • Being tired of doing it all

ADHD and Parenting Resources: 

The Whole Brain Child BookLD@school National Institute of Mental Health

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episode 31: the adversity (Healing Cycles of Abuse with Chris Allen)

Christine and Chris

Summary

What does the word adversity mean to you? Chris Allen is the definition of overcoming adversity. 

A powerful follow up conversation with my new friend Chris Allen. His honesty, vulnerability, transparency, and directness about his difficult childhood filled with abuse and chaos inspires me to be more vulnerable and transparent about my own story.

Chris and I tell discuss losing our virginity at a young age, Chris’s former approach to sex and intimacy before meeting his beautiful wife, and his father’s suspicious suicide. And the weird thing Chris and I have in common! Find out the ONE question Chris COULD NOT answer at the end.

Listen to our first conversation episode 28: the reframe

Topics discussed: 

  • Codependency
  • Perfectionism
  • PTSD
  • anxiety, imposter syndrome 
  • toxic friends

Chris Allen is the CEO & Co-Founder of Advanced Computing and Technology, Father, Husband, and more!

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how coronavirus saved my life episode 28 the reframe
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episode 28: the reframe (Conversation with CEO Chris Allen about his Journey of Reframing Society’s Conditioned View of Male Strength)

Summary

This episode left me speechless. It is not often I meet someone who’s childhood has similarities to mine. Much less someone who is as direct and transparent about the value of having a traumatic childhood , how reframing our conditioned perspective of our painful past is where your power lies and shows our true purpose.

My honest no-holds-barred conversation with Chris Allen, CEO & Co-Founder of Advanced Computing and Technology, Athlete, Father, Husband, former prisoner turned Advocate, about his Journey of Reframing Conditioned Views of Male Strength is a game changer. How beautiful for two people who barely know one another to instantly trust & feel safe in sharing their dysfunctional childhood resulting in seeking love in toxic relationships, multiple sex partners, and choices altering our destiny forever. 

Society tells us that men should be “strong”, the head of the family, the one that we can lean on, the one who has all the answers, the one who won’t hurt you, the one who will rescue you. Then women, such as myself, become disappointed when men do not live up to this misguided societal conditioning.

The purpose of today’s episode is to start reframing our misguided conditioned beliefs about male strength.

Thank You Chris Allen for trusting the listeners with your story. Thank you for being honest about your own mistakes you made in past relationships. Thank you Chris for being vulnerable. You are a role model in male vulnerability. 

Chris Allen is a role model in Male Vulnerability. Male Vulnerability is the VERY definition of Male Strength.

Thank You to all the listeners for giving this podcast healing wings! I am forever grateful. 

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Check out episode 27: the bully with Blogger Cherie White

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Ask and You Shall Receive…

by: Christine Zethraus, PMHNP

Hello. My name is Christine. I am a recovering codependent, procrastinator, perfectionist, avoidance queen who would never ask for help in a million years. Much less reach out to a popular blogger and author to record a podcast episode about bullying . (hint: she’s a fierce advocate for bullied children and teens).

Now…why oh why, you might ask, would I have issues asking for help? Shall we start with childhood? You know what? Let’s not.

Asking for help is still a work in progress but my new jam is asking people I admire to come on my podcast. Superstars I admire, like Cherie White, who have overcame adversity and are now screaming their story from the mountaintops of Tennessee. All while knowing the real potential physical threat of telling her story is bravery at it’s finest. And this is where I swoon!

https://anchor.fm/howcoronavirussavedmylife/episodes/episode-27-the-bully-Conversation-with-Advocate-for-Bullied-Children–Author-and-Blogger-Cherie-White-e1hie5v

Cherie White is my new hero.

“Exposing Bullies and Liberating Targets to Make The World a Safer Place for All” is Cherie’s purpose on this planet. Her soul’s calling. Her mission to humanity. How ironic she had to be the ONE severely bullied for 6 years in childhood.

Wait till you hear how she finally left that horrible school for a new school. A shiny, brighter school where she was seen for the angel she is. Astonishing how your grades dramatically go up when bullies aren’t abusing your teenage self any longer.

Thank you Cherie for being a voice for others. Thank you for making the world a better place for children and teens.

Cherie White AKA Superstar Badass
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conversation, human design, mental health, podcast, self help

episode 24: the strategy (Conversation with Marielle Honse about Human Design Types, Authority, and Centers)

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Marielle and I discuss Human Design

Summary

In this podcast episode….

Coach Marielle Honse and I continue our conversation about my favorite topic —Human Design.

Before listening and downloading this episode….

Listen and download my previous episode– episode 21: the design —if you haven’t already. Marielle and I start with the basics of human design, what human design is, and how each person has a unique human design.

Highly recommend Marielle’s one on one 8 week Human Design Coaching or a personal Human Design reading. It’s a game changer! For real!

Marielle’s Instagram here  

Topics Discussed:

Human Design

  • Types (MGs/G, Projectors, Manifestors, Reflectors)
  • Authority
  • Centers (Root,Sacral, Solar Plexus, Spleen, Heart/Ego, Identity/G-Center, Throat, Ajna/Mind Center, Head)
  • Defined and Undefined Centers

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episode 22: the mania (Conversation with Melissa Llarena About What It’s Like Being Raised By A Mother With Severe Bipolar Disorder)

Summary

In this episode….

Melissa Llarena and I have a powerful conversation about her childhood. Quite frankly, I am still wrapping my mind around what it was like for Melissa as a little girl being raised by a Mother who has Bipolar Disorder. Melissa eloquently paints the picture of herself as a little girl who’s mother was frequently hospitalized, off her meds, manic, grandiose, and unstable. A little girl who was shuffled around, raising herself, constant chaos, and a foundation created with uncertainty and danger. I am honored Melissa Llarena trusted my listeners and myself for giving her a safe space to speak her childhood truth. 

Personal Note: 

Dear Melissa, 

I am so proud of you for the bravery of sharing your story. This IS YOUR Geraldo Rivera moment. Little Melissa is worthy of feeling safe in her/your truth. You inspire me in unimaginable ways! Thank you. I am humbled. Keeping speaking YOUR truth. You deserve it…. and so does the world. Go Cycle

Melissa Llarena’s Bio:

Melissa is a business mentor, career coach, Forbes contributor, and greatest cheerleader to fellow mompreneurs. She is the creator and host of ``An Interview with Melissa Llarena”which is a podcast for super curious humans who desire to learn from humans who courageously and creatively went after their curiosities, and made an impact, so they can too.

Melissa Llarena Resources: 

Check out Career Outcomes Matter here.

Listen and Download Melissa Llarena’s podcast -An Interview With Melissa Llarena–here.

Melissa’s Instagram here

Sign up NOW for Melissa’s Courage Makerspace Playbook here (An amazing resource!)

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how coronavirus saved my life episode 21: the design
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episode 21: the design

(Conversation with Human Design Expert and Coach Marielle Honse)

Listen to my latest episode on how Human Design changed my life!

Summary

Show notes:

episode 21: the design (Conversation with Human Design Expert and Coach Marielle Honse)

Intro:

After I emerged from quarantine in April 2020 I was a different person. My brain was different, my soul was different, & the things that spoke to my heart were different. I could no longer go back to the person I was before. The person I was before was constantly frustrated, unhappy without knowing why, and living in a world of pressure and dissatisfaction.

As I journeyed through my spiritual transformation, I came across Human Design. The more I read and learned about my own Human Design, the more I was fascinated. Human Design (HD) has helped me understand my gifts & talents, how to use frustration as my superpower, why I had a traumatic childhood.

Today I brought my friend and Human Design Coach and Reader Marielle to discuss what exactly is Human Design and how this can transform your life as well.

episode 21 topics:

  • Human Design Coach Marielle gives background about herself, how she found HD, and why it resonated with her
  • Marielle explains Human Design two ways
  • Bodygraphs
  • Gates
  • Marielle explains who developed and discovered HD
  • Neutrino flow
  • Energy Types (Generators, Manifestors, MGs, Projectors, and Reflectors)
  • Profile Types

Marielle HD Coach Resources: 

Sign up for Coaching Newsletter here

Follow Marielle on Instagram for more HD topics

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episode 18: the survival (Conversation with my friend Anthony about his Experience as a Gay Man with HIV)

Summary

Show Notes: 

In this episode, Christine has a conversation with her best friend Anthony about his Experience as a Gay Man with HIV

Christine and Anthony discuss the following:

  • Debate the term promiscuous
  • Tell the story how they met
  • Compare and contrast their childhood
  • Anthony’s Italian Conservative family
  • Money trauma in childhood
  • Using money to avoid difficult emotions
  • Anthony’s powerful moment with his bio father
  • Anthony not knowing any gay people till 18 years old
  • Anthony knowing he was gay since 12
  • His first gay experience
  • How is family reacted when came out
  • Creating his own version of a gay man
  • Speaking our truth
  • Sep 11
  • Anthony’s HIV diagnosis & powerful moment with his dr
  • Madonna advocating for safe sex
  • His family’s reaction to his diagnosis

Resources for HIV education and facts:

https://www.hiv.gov/

Christine’s Podcast:

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How Coronavirus Saved My Life Podcast: episode 20

The conditioning (Society’s Conditioned View of the Black Man Experience)

Sneak Peak into my conversation with Podcaster Willie Porter from The Thing About Us Podcast

My Conversation with Willie Porter about his personal experience